Yes, I know I said I was going to talk about overseas missions today, but because what's trending on Facebook these days is that many people are getting engaged and that seems to have some repercussions for everyone else, I thought I would throw in my two cents about the "engagement explosion" (as always, you can take it or leave it).
If you are engaged, congratulations! That's wonderful, and I wish you and your honey a wonderful life happily ever after! This is for the rest of us. You may have noticed the ripple effect that an engagement announcement has. For those in a relationship, it probably means the girl sighs dreamily while the guy's thinking, Crap! The heat's on!
For us singles, it may mean feeling kind of sorry for yourself, finding a couch and some ice cream and watching a few old films, wondering, When is going to happen for me? I'm here to tell you DON'T WORRY ABOUT IT!
Guys, here I'm going to talk to the girls for a second.
Girls: there's about a million things that I could say to you, but I'll keep it simple. Just because you didn't get married before your friends did doesn't mean you're an old maid. It doesn't mean there's something wrong with you, that you're less attractive than the girl who just got her ring, or the one who's in a relationship. It also does not mean that you need to go out and hunt yourself a guy. Don't chase men. Don't chase men. Don't chase men. Repetition implies emphasis. Forget about that feminist crap about being a liberated woman and taking what you want; it's not cool to be a slut anymore. Be yourself, live your life, read some books, go on some adventures, and the right man will come to you. And then he'll fight for you, and win your heart, and want to keep you. And that's when there's generally a ring involved. But the point is that it happens on God's timing, not yours. Besides, if you spend every day worrying that you're never going to find "the one," you miss out on the experiences of every day leading up to then. A very smart lady named Elisabeth Elliot said, "The important thing is to receive this moment's experience with both hands. Don't waste it." (Good reads: Passion and Purity and Let me be a woman, both by Elisabeth Elliot).
Now, gentlemen: I'm not a guy. I don't know what you like to read, so I don't have some recommendations for you. Talk to a mature Christian male friend about that. However, to you I will say this: be the guy that a girl can trust. If you're in a relationship, this means that she won't stress about the ring as much because she knows that you care about her more than anything in the world. If you're single, it means building companionship. Girls love a guy they can trust (that business about being mysterious is more attractive isn't necessarily true; be the real deal). There is a girl out there specially made by God just for you; just be patient. In the meantime, be mature. Have some life experiences, and figure out what it is you're looking for to begin with. Paul said that being single is a gift; now calm down, that doesn't mean being single is better somehow and that you must stay single forever. Every stage of life is a gift by God and has a purpose. Don't rush through it. And if you like, spend a little time with the ones who have "figured it out." Maybe they could give you a little advice? Who knows? Personally, I don't believe God would have given you such a romantic heart with the intent that you'd never find the one to share it with.
So there it is. Now, quit complaining and congratulate a pair of friends who just got engaged!
"Trust in the Lord and do good, then you will live safely in the land and prosper. Take delight in the Lord, and He will give you your heart's desires. Commit everything you do to the Lord. Trust Him, and He will make your innocence shine like the dawn, and the justice of your cause shine like the noonday sun."
Psalm 37:3-6
The real deal, most movies don't even come close, but there is one, a comedy mind you, but the original "Yours, Mine, and Ours" is a must see.
ReplyDeleteI love that movie! Lucille Ball is hilarious in it :)
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